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Great Tips for Success and Happiness  
Compiled by Shah N. Khan

1. What are the ten most important things one must do to achieve success and happiness?

2. What important lessons you have learned from your long experience?

The answers to these questions would vary from person to person depending upon such factors as age, sex, education, environments, and marital status as well as the field of expertise or skills. By sharing our experiences or views we can learn many things and avoid pitfalls and  wasted efforts. 

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THE SEVEN C's OF SUCCESS by Brian Tracy

"After having studied top achievers and peak performers over the past 25 years, I've concluded that these unique men and women, have in most cases, mastered what I call the Seven C's of Success.

1. Clarity - Eighty percent of success comes from being clear on who you are, what you believe in and what you want.

2. Competence - You can't climb to the next rung on the ladder until you are excellent at what you do now.

3. Constraints - Eighty percent of all obstacles to success come from within. Find out what is constraining you or your company and deal with it.

4. Concentration - The ability to focus on one thing single-mindedly and see it through until it's done takes character and determination.

5. Creativity - Flood your life with ideas from many sources. Creativity needs to be exercised like a muscle, if you don't use it you'll lose it.

"Properly practiced creativity can make one ad do the work of ten." 
- William Bernbach,

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Shah N. Khan

 
"If I were asked to give what I consider the single most useful bit of advice for all humanity, it would be this: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life, and when it comes, hold your head high.  Look it squarely in the eye, and say, 'I will be bigger than you.  You cannot defeat me.'" 
-- Ann Landers
 
"(1) Do not cry. No matter what. (2) Use your appearance to create an image of strength. (3) Develop staying power. (4) Specialize. (5) Don't wear your sex like a badge on your sleeve. (6) Put in more time than anyone else. (7) Be loyal. (8) Be a team player. (9) Never use your family as an excuse. (10) Learn how to be a manager. (11) Network."

_Dianne Feinstein (b. 1933), U.S. politician.

 
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6. Courage - Most in demand and least in supply, courage is the willingness to do the things you know are right.

7. Continuous learning - Read, at the very least, one book a week on business to keep you miles ahead of the competition. And just as you eat and bathe, organize your time so you spend 30 minutes a day exploring e-mail, sending messages, going through websites, because like exercise, it's the only way you can keep on top of
technology. If you get away from it, you'll lose your edge."

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Integrity without knowledge is weak and useless, and knowledge without integrity is dangerous and dreadful.
Samuel Johnson 
"All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire."  -Aristotle
. Jim Rohn's Formula for Success
8. "Success is 20% skills and 80% strategy. You might know how to read, but more importantly, what's your plan to read?" -- Jim Rohn

9. Remember what Dwight D. Eisenhower had said:  "In preparing for battle I have always found that plans are useless, but planning is indispensable. And also what Nido Quben says:
."The trouble with many plans is that they are based on the way things are now.  To be successful, your personal plan must focus on what you want, not what you have."

10. "I also give great importance to accepting the responsibility and challenge and what Julie Plenty  say: "Stop judging yourself and other people in your life for what has happened to you in the past.  Playing the Blame Game serves no one, least of all yourself.  People did what they thought was best at the time, the same way you did.  Learn
to forgive yourself and others for past mistakes. Harboring old grudges takes up a lot of time and energy you could be using in more productive ways."

"Learn how to reconcile, resolve and accept what has happened in the past and know that it has made you a much stronger person.  Acknowledge your fears and find out what's really behind them.  Many of your fears are likely to be groundless, but it is the thinking, attitudes and beliefs that cause much of the inappropriate fear.  Fear is often a
disguise for your lack of belief in yourself and your judgments." 
_ Julie Plenty 

11. "The best way to start building your self esteem and confidence is to commit to making changes.  Even if you use just one of the examples listed above, it will begin to make a difference to your level of self esteem.  Know that you are valued, regardless of what has happened before." _Julie Plenty, Personal and Business Coach http://www.kick-start-your-self-esteem.com

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Success
"He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often and loved much; who has enjoyed the trust of pure women, the respect of intelligent men and the love of little children; who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; who has left the world better than he found it, whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul; who has never lacked appreciation of Earth's beauty or failed to express it; who has always looked for the best in others and given them the best he had; whose life was an inspiration; whose memory a benediction." 
Betty Anderson Stanley. reprinted by the syndicated advice columnist Ann Landers, March 11, 1995.
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12. BE FLEXIBLE BUT ACCOUNTABLE
"The best-laid plans of mice and men and all that mean that you need to be flexible in response to an unanticipated change in your schedule. If something comes up that needs your attention when you had intended to be working, by all means attend to it. Just make up the time later on. It's swings and roundabouts. It all comes out in the wash"._Elena Fawkner

13. CARROTS WORK BETTER THAN STICKS
"Finally, my favorite tactic. Reward yourself for getting the job done. Nothing motivates me more to finish a set project that the knowledge that when I do, I have full permission to curl up on the couch with a good book for a couple of hours." _Elena Fawkner

14." Give yourself an incentive to get whatever it is done.  Then you can truly enjoy the best of both worlds. You can relax and enjoy whatever your reward is, free of the guilt that comes with knowing very well you should be doing something else, and with the certain knowledge that you've taken care of business first"._ Elena Fawkner

15.Many people suffer from the obsession for Perfectionism.
This obsession is cured when we understand that the perceptions 
for perfection and excellence differ from people to people. And we attain  excellence in performance when the people for whom we do the job are fully satisfied and happy with our work even when we feel that despite our best efforts we have not achieved absolute perfection. Remember that only God Almighty can achieve absolute perfection. Often when we feel that we have done a perfect job, there would be some who would criticize it.

Please see Part 2 for many other great tips, culled from various sources after research and study.

 
Here are few other great tips culled from various sources after research and study.

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"I have no faith in human perfectability. I think that human exertion will have no appreciable effect upon humanity. Man is now only more active—not more happy—nor more wise, than he was 6000 years ago."

Edgar Allan Poe (1809–45), U.S. poet,


Treat Health as a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity. The psychologists can help us to improve our abilities such as being able to motivate oneself and others, to persist in the face of frustrations; to control impulse and delay gratification; to regulate one's moods and keep distress from swamping the ability to think; to empathize and to hope.
 

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1. Goal setting always works. Your goals and objectives must be challenging requiring extra ordinary effort on your part. They may appear to be out of reach but should not out of sight.

2. Your goals must be supported and followed by plans of action. You must plan your actions and act on your plans.

3. Write down your goals for business, hobbies, family, social activities and your entire life. Break them into target for the day, week, month and the year and evaluate your progress every day. Keep on modifying your goals and target and adding new ones or deleting old ones.

4. Resolve and affirm and keep on reaffirming that after 6 to 8 hours sound sleep, you will utilize every moment available to you productively.

5. Keep on practicing positive thinking and approaches and framing such subtle and gentle questions the response for which would be, "yes"". Ponder over it and keep practicing how you can get other person to answer yes.

6. Be a good listener. Let the other person do most of the talking.

7. Throw challenges indirectly and appeal to noble motives.

8. Punctuality helps you in winning but you lose a lot being late.

 

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The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human   being can alter his life by altering his attitudes of mind! 
- William James 
"The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes, but in liking what one has to do." (James M. Barrie)
"Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love and something to hope for."_Joseph Addison
 
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9. Avoiding snap decisions will save you from losses and embarrassment. But indecision or not making a decision in time would cause more damage.

10. You must get all the relevant facts to arrive at a decision but remember that in most cases an imperfect decision may be better than 'No decision'.

11. "Better to be occasionally cheated than perpetually suspicious". _B. C. FORBES.

12. Executive ability has been defined to be "making quick decisions and getting somebody else to do the jobs." And art of delegation is said to be art of management.

13. Never tell a person that his opinion is wrong. Show respect for the opinions and convictions of others.

14. Don't entangle yourself in an argument. You may sometime win an argument but lose a friend or customer. By avoiding argument you have little to lose.

15. If your mistake or error of judgment comes to light admit it quickly and graciously.

16. Greet people with a broad smile and warm handshake. But be careful, many ladies do not like to shake hands with men. However, practically every woman feels pleased with a compliment.
 

17 Be generous with praise and avoid criticism. But point out mistakes or errors subtly and gently (in privacy as far as possible) if that is going to create embarrassing situation later.

18  Find some reason to praise something. It may be a dress or some new possession.

19. Be sincere and honest, as that will be reflected by your facial expressions while you talk.

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 Man's ability to foresee reaction of others to the choices he makes enables him to choose more wisely from amongst different alternatives. Such people are called visionaries or leaders
Shah N, Khan
People with the "right" attitude have a consistently positive outlook about life, about their jobs, about what they're doing.  They are constantly looking for results and taking responsibility. 
People who have the RIGHT attitude take responsibility for their  lives. _From "Change Your Attitude" by Tom Bay, Ph.D. and David Macpherson.
All successful men have agreed in one thing,—they were causationists. They believed that things went not by luck, but by law; that there was not a weak or a cracked link in the chain that joins the first and last of things._Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882),
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20. Watch carefully body language or gesticulation of successful people, leaders, etc. Do not imitate them but try to develop your own style. Body language helps others in understanding what you try to convey.

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Guilty consciences always make people cowards. 
The Prince and his Minister. Chap. iii. Fable iii. 
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21  In written communication a neat style, simple and straightforward approach and simple language free from grammatical mistakes will pave the way for convincing others.

22. Be sympathetic with other person's ideas and desires. That will help in developing feelings of mutual trust and understanding.

23. Keep on learning new things and watch the developments in your field of expertise or business. Even great scholars and scientists do that.

24. One of the best ways to get happiness is to make the people around you happy.

25. Count the blessings of God that you have and think of misfortunes and miseries of the people around you and thank the Almighty that you are better than many.

26. Always remember that feelings of disappointment, remorse and discontentment are temporary and time is a great healer but you must pray and meditate. That will help in working out a plan to get happiness.

27. Learn to control anger and anxiety. Take a shower or wash your face with a wet towel when these emotions overtake you.

28. Take part in social and cultural activities and make acquaintances with strangers preferably asking your friends to introduce you to the people you want to meet. Don't be shy in approaching the strangers if you have to. After all you are as important a guest or visitor as the others. Exchange visiting cards after exchanging pleasantries but before parting or shaking hands to say bye.

29. Ring up the new acquaintance after a day or two just to renew contact and invite for tea or something, or just send a small note.

30. Make conscious effort to get rid of bad habits like smoking, drinking, gambling etc. Pray to God to give you power of faith. With that power you can move mountains.

31. Do what you love, love what you do and deliver more
than you promise.' --Harvey Mackay

32. Always bear in mind that the world cares very little about what a man or woman knows; it is what a man or woman is able to do that counts.

33. Resist the urge to make excuses that keep you from your dreams. Don't make excuses.  Make things happen. 

34. Control impulses for greed with contentment but don't let that kill your ambitions.

35. All ambitions are lawful except those which climb upward on the miseries or credulities of mankind. All intellectual and artistic ambitions are permissible, up to and even beyond the limit of prudent sanity. They can hurt no one._Joseph Conrad (1857–1924),

36. "The twin killers of success are impatience and greed."_Jim Rohn

37. "Adopt the pace of nature, her secret is patience." _Ralph Waldo Emerson

38. Always remember. " Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism."_Carl Jung (1875–1961), Swiss psychiatrist.
 
 
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Work banishes those three great evils, boredom, vice and poverty._ Francois Voltaire

If you have great talents, industry will improve them: if you have but moderate 
abilities, industry will supply their deficiency.
_Sir Joshua Reynolds (1723–92), English artist


In order that people may be happy in their work, these three things are 
needed: They must be fit for it: they must not do too much of it: and they must have a sense of success in it—not a doubtful sense, such as needs some testimony of others for its confirmation, but a sure sense, or rather knowledge, that so much work has been done well, and fruitfully done, whatever the world may say or think about it.
_W. H. Auden (1907–73),


The greatest analgesic, soporific, stimulant, tranquilizer, narcotic, and to some extent even antibiotic—in short, the closest thing to a genuine panacea—known to medical science is work. 

_Thomas Szasz (b. 1920), U.S. psychiatrist.